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When I was 13, my mom gave me the book Lies Young Women Believe. I didn’t read it right away, but when I did, I looked up the website listed inside: www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com. I signed up for the emails and was presented with another website: www.girldefined.com. I signed up for their emails too. After a while […]

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Issue at Hand, March 2019

“We just need to stick it out until we get married, then all our issues will be resolved.” Have you or your significant other said something like that? It’s not true. Marriage—after the “waiting period” (dating) your parents impose upon you and always seem to want to know too much about—is not a switch. Flipping […]

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A Defense of Dating

By dating, I understand a special relationship of fellowship between an unmarried young man and an unmarried young woman, the nature and purpose of which is the possibility of marriage. There is some biblical defense of dating. Jacob dated Rachel seven years with a view to marrying her (Gen. 29:20). In the New Testament, there […]

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Dear Lord, How Do I Date?

After being asked to write this article, I struggled for some time as to whether I had the courage to approach this subject. However, I didn’t want to let an opportunity pass to encourage you in godly living. I think many of us agree that the topic of dating is important, but when someone, something, […]

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Dating Coram Deo

Coram Deo is a Latin phrase that means “in the presence of God,” or “before God.” R. C. Sproul summarizes the idea well: “To live coram Deo is to live one’s entire life in the presence of God, under the authority of God, to the glory of God.” Now, we apply the phrase to dating. […]

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Dating

Dating can be one of the most enjoyable experiences a young person can have. It can also be the cause for some very traumatic times. Some boys fear rejection. Some girls are afraid that they will never be asked for a date. Often both are jittery because they do not know what is expected of […]

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Amazing Grace: Lessons I Learned from my Grandma

Grace Schimmel was born August 27, 1926 to George and Nellie Kamps. Over the course of her long and full life, she had seven children, 31 grandchildren, and over 50 great-grandchildren. Her past times included lively card games with friends and family, heated debates around the dinner table, Dutch bingo, and painting (which she was […]

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Covenant Courtship (10) The Church Our Mother

“Where there is no vision, the people perish.” (Proverbs 29:18) The goal of God’s covenant friendship with us is his glory. He befriends us for his glory. He saves us for his glory. The church is his glory. For her he gives himself; loves, cherishes and nourishes her according to his marvelous perfection. We experience […]

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Covenant Courtship (9) The Role of Parents

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Prov. 22:6). The blessedness of covenant truth is that God’s covenant friendship extends to believers and their seed. God purposes to save not only individuals but families in their organic lines as well. He […]

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Covenant Courtship (8) With a View to Marriage

“For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church” (Eph 5:31-32). The covenant God who establishes the institution of marriage purposed it to be a reflection […]

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Covenant Courtship (7) Subjection to the Head

“Being in subjection refers to the inner attitude of a wife’s heart, according to which she knows her husband to be in authority over her and freely wills it.” —Prof. David Engelsma In the covenant marriage between Christ and the Church, He calls his bride to be in subjection to him. Christ is the faithful […]

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Covenant Courtship (6) The Head of the Woman

“The head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man” (1 Cor. 11:3). In the miracle of God’s work of salvation, he promises to save families and their generations after them. As he establishes his covenant with a man and a woman in marriage, he establishes a system in […]

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Covenant Courtship (5) Godliness in Courtship

As God establishes his covenant friendship with his elect in Christ, he draws them closer to him in a spiritual bond of love. His love attracts and compels them to union with him. He teaches them in his ways so that they know how to obey and love him rightly. His Word instructs while his […]

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Covenant Courtship (4) Surrendering

“Submit yourselves therefore to God” (Jas 4:7). In the covenant of grace, God extends his friendship to sinners who are by nature totally depraved. He does so by his Spirit, accompanied by the preaching of his Word, drawing his elect people out of darkness into the marvelous light of his fellowship. And although the hearts […]

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Covenant Courtship (3) Spiritual Unity

“God in his wisdom brings together two young people who are sufficiently alike, yet also sufficiently different, that they complement each other, forming one whole, forming a balance wheel for each other as well.” (Rev. Cornelius Hanko) The covenant of God is unity. It is the unity between the perfectly righteous One and fallen, elect sinners […]

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Covenant Courtship (2) Choosing Wisely

“God-fearing men seek God-fearing wives” (Prof. H. Hanko). In God’s counsel of election he chose a specific group of people to be his own. Leaving the rest of mankind to perish in the way of their sin, God chose a group of people unto salvation in Christ. Upon them he sets his favour and love, […]

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Covenant Courtship (1) A Proper Perspective

“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6). If Christian courtship is to be properly approached, then it demands first of all a proper definition. Our young people and their parents must know what covenant courtship involves. They must believe in their hearts the spiritual nature of a covenant relationship and seek to apply […]

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Leaving Father and Mother—Biblical Courtship and Marriage by Cornelius Hanko, Reformed Free Publishing Association, pbk, 54 pp, $5.95 Available from: Reformed Free Publishing Association 1894 Georgetown Center Drive Jenison, Michigan 49428-7137 Phone: 616-457-5970 Monday – Friday, 8 a.m. – 4 p.m. (EST) Fax: 616-457-5980 Website: www.rfpa.org E-Mail: mail@rfpa.org Much common sense and biblical wisdom is to be […]

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Love

The Christmas lights have dimmed, the New Years celebrations have died down, and now come the red hearts, roses, and romance that flits here and there. Many become a bit uncertain and apprehensive as they attempt to master this elusive concept and fall into love with a special someone. Others seem to have found it, […]

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