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Financial Partnership in Marriage

A Christian young man and woman, several years out of high school, became engaged to get married. The soon-to-be husband was quieter and unassertive. As a college student, he was busy focusing on his degree, studying and working part-time when able. The soon-to-be wife was more assertive and worked full-time. They would begin their marriage […]

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Believing the Permanency of Marriage (3) 

Many would say that it is a good thing when a marriage lasts for life. In fact, those who have remained married for a long time are sometimes interviewed and asked what their secret is. Indeed, many praise a long marriage. Few, however, confess that the marriage bond is always lifelong, meaning that even if […]

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The Purpose of Marriage (2)

In our previous article, we looked at the purpose of marriage for the glory of God and his covenant. The second reason in the marriage form speaks of the calling to bringing forth covenant children. We do not minimize the struggles associated with child rearing and the responsibility of large families. Again, we need to […]

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Issue at Hand, April 2019

A whole issue of Beacon Lights devoted to marriage? Yes. It does not matter how young or old you are. It does not matter what stage of life you are in. It does not matter if you are married or not. Reading about marriage is timely for anyone, anytime. If you are unsure about the […]

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The Purpose of Marriage (1)

The purpose of marriage is the glory of God. This is crucial for a couple to understand in order that they enter into marriage with the right perspective. Marriage is not about me and not about you. Marriage is about God. Reformed churches since the time of the Synod of Dordt in 1618–19 adopted a […]

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Issue at Hand, March 2019

“We just need to stick it out until we get married, then all our issues will be resolved.” Have you or your significant other said something like that? It’s not true. Marriage—after the “waiting period” (dating) your parents impose upon you and always seem to want to know too much about—is not a switch. Flipping […]

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There is something special about being in a relationship. The desire for companionship, already present in childhood, takes on more urgency as we pass through adolescence into adulthood. To desire a relationship is good and natural. Solomon says that “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord” (Prov. 18:22). God expressed […]

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A Defense of Dating

By dating, I understand a special relationship of fellowship between an unmarried young man and an unmarried young woman, the nature and purpose of which is the possibility of marriage. There is some biblical defense of dating. Jacob dated Rachel seven years with a view to marrying her (Gen. 29:20). In the New Testament, there […]

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Covenant young people, friends and lovers of Jehovah’s covenant: I’m delighted to have the opportunity to address you at this your convention, especially in light of your theme: “Jehovah’s Covenant With Us.”  How unspeakably beautiful is God’s Covenant—that intimate bond of love and fellowship that God Himself makes with His own children.  How utterly amazing […]

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Same-Sex Marriage and the Methodists

In the August 2015 issue of Beacon Lights, under the title “I’m Scared,” I wrote concerning the United States Supreme Court’s decision to legalize same-sex marriage. In lamenting this decision and condemning it on the basis of scripture, I addressed you young people, writing that I am fearful for you in terms of what will […]

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War Marriages

War creates its own problems, particularly for young people whose lives are so directly affected by it. By far not the least weighty of these problems for many of our young people is the question of a war marriage.  Shall they marry now, before the young man leaves for active service in the armed forces, […]

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Marriage

In our previous article on this subject, we wrote primarily of the events of the life of the covenant youth which lead up to the state of marriage, or, the time of courtship. Three thoughts we expressed as “guiding principles” which, if heeded, would contribute to the assurance that one in the pre-marital state would […]

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Interracial Marriages

The question to be answered in this News treats a matter of Christian ethics. While it is true that Scripture does not speak directly to all issues that arise in our life’s calling, it does lay down principles that can and must serve as our guide to walk in a way pleasing to God. The […]

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Leaving Father and Mother—Biblical Courtship and Marriage by Cornelius Hanko, Reformed Free Publishing Association, pbk, 54 pp, $5.95 Available from: Reformed Free Publishing Association 1894 Georgetown Center Drive Jenison, Michigan 49428-7137 Phone: 616-457-5970 Monday – Friday, 8 a.m. – 4 p.m. (EST) Fax: 616-457-5980 Website: www.rfpa.org E-Mail: mail@rfpa.org Much common sense and biblical wisdom is to be […]

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A Faithful Witness: The Christian Family

Nathan is a member of Hudsonville Protestant Reformed Church in Hudsonville, Michigan. He wrote this essay for the Protestant Reformed Scholarship. The institution of marriage and the family structure have come under heated debate in religious and political circles. Various churches degrade marriage by the allowance of divorce and remarriage and their support of the […]

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The Reformed Family

Andy is a member of Hudsonville Protestant Reformed Church in Hudsonville, Michigan. He wrote this essay for the 2004 Protestant Reformed Scholarship. Western culture more and more shows itself to be an enemy of marriage and the family. Astronomical divorce rates, remarriage after divorce, homosexual unions and now marriages, and the increasing disregard for the […]

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Love

The Christmas lights have dimmed, the New Years celebrations have died down, and now come the red hearts, roses, and romance that flits here and there. Many become a bit uncertain and apprehensive as they attempt to master this elusive concept and fall into love with a special someone. Others seem to have found it, […]

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